I’m sure some of you have heard this too.
I’m pretty sure I always responded with what I thought was a convincing “I won’t, thanks”.
Well I have a huge confession to make. I absolutely lied; I did forget to look after myself, in fact I knew I would forget to. Not only did I forget, I pretty much totally ignored my needs as an INDIVIDUAL.
We all do it, we fall in love, commit ourselves to a relationship and before we know it we are no longer our own priority. We do this instinctively (well most of us I’d like to think..) it’s understandable for the majority of us to put our family’s needs before our own. Children come along and BOOM!! We are waaaay down on our own list of priorities; does that even make sense?
No! It doesn’t, so it’s important for us especially parents to ‘MAKE SURE TO MAKE ‘ME MOMENTS’ ‘.
So what happens when we neglect our own needs; well, we burn out! And some of us (myself very much included) don’t realise the importance of me time until it’s too late.
I recall my sister reminding me on many occasions, that a mother LIONESS will feed herself before feeding her cubs, and this isn’t due to hierarchy. It’s because the Lioness needs the strength to care for and protect those vulnerable little Cubs!🦁❤️
And please please please I would really really appreciate it if you can SHARE THIS POST🙏🏼 with your methods, techniques and tips that work for you to give you the much needed ‘recharge’ and how you maintain me time, because some of us need to hear how to and be reminded that it’s not just ok, but vital to do so. Thankyou 💜
Because there is no doubt that we can take better care of our loved ones when we maintain care for ourselves. And would you want to set the example to the young ones in your life not to take care of themselves, I know I certainly don’t want to.
If this post is making you aware of the fact that you are too low down on your priority list; then ADDRESS THAT!
Here are some tips, if you feel you are struggling to make me yourself a priority..
1) get your friend/s to make their me time with you. Perhaps you are finding it hard to justify some time spent solely on yourself? Well if so invite a friend or two or even your partner to join you at a spa; book in a party of treatments and commit to it! You can get great deals online regularly.💆🏻 🥂
Now! no excuses go enjoy yourself!
2) Review your health & beauty care regimes?🛀🏾 I know I don’t spend nearly as much time on my beauty care regimes since having children, so I imagine most of you are the same. But on the days you make time to exfoliate, tone, moisturise, mani-pedi and tan etc, don’t you feel so much better? So do it. Go on! 💆🏿💆🏼💆🏽💆🏻💆🏾
3) AROMA: burn some relaxing aromatherapy or essential oils, oil burners can be picked up cheap and even second hand, borrow one if u can and let the oil and candle do all the work on relaxing the atmosphere around you.😍 do this as afternoon is becoming evening. Enjoy the aroma, and as you do, think of all of the things about your life you do enjoy and wouldn’t want to be without. 🙌🏻
4) Put pen to paper: 📝 all the things that are buzzing around your head making you feel overwhelmed and unable to prioritise some me time, scribble them all on the paper, letting it out will help you clear your head.
Now cross out all of the things on the paper that are out of YOUR CONTROL.
Take a few deep breaths, now cross out the things that don’t need to be done today. Now close your eyes take a few more deep breaths, look at the paper again and cross out the things that don’t need to be done right now. 👌🏼
Well done you did it 👍and and you feel a little bit better don’t you?👌
Now you should be left with a few short tasks to undertake, do those and then schedule in some me time before taking up any more.
Personally I’ve spent way too long unable or perhaps unwilling to make myself a priority. I didn’t have any family and friends locally, that & #breastfeeding on demand, made my perfect excuses! I think I also didn’t want to admit how (incorrectly) guilty I would have felt at the time for putting myself first even for half an hour..
It is especially difficult when you don’t have a babysitter available to take yourself for a massage or maybe difficult to generate time and money to do something like that, well there are ways around it. You just need to focus your mind to generate the ideas.
(Hypnosis can help with this: I will be teaching self hypnosis in my clinic. Contact me for more info.)
RECENTLY I was fortunate and sensible enough to designate a ‘ME DAY’ recently. A friend and I went along to Hoar Cross Hall Spa Resort for a much needed day of relaxation 😍
Now I’d never actually been on a spa day before in fact I’d never been to a spa at all! The last and only time I’d actually had a professional massage was about ten years ago!🙀
I have to say after a Luxurious day at the spa I have committed myself to designate a ‘me day’ (perhaps not a full day) but at the very least; a regular, relaxing, therapeutic massage.
My friends and family know I have spent a long time with chronic pain due to a spinal injury which fortunately is much better these days, and I feel like a ‘new woman’. My back feels comfortable, I usually ‘manage’ getting out of bed in the morning with a slow process of stretching, deep breathing and visualisation.
After my me day I was up and out of bed and brushing my teeth pain free before I realised I’d not needed to go through the slow stretching routine.
I have been feeling much more relaxed, happier and this ABSOLUTELY is better for MY FAMILY!!
****you know when the kids are fighting and the house is chaotic with toys etc and you just want to shout ‘SHUT UUUUP’???
Well after some me time I can just intake a long deep breath and continue eliminating this situation by calmly tidying a little and quietening the atmosphere****.
Because I’ve created the ‘headspace’ to do this during my
🙏🏼💆🏻🌟🌟🌟🌟ME TIME! 🌟🌟🌟🌟💁🏻👌🏼
I actually did some really wonderful SELF HYPNOSIS whilst relaxing at the spa; and I am enjoying the benefits days later. I’m so excited to be teaching my clients self hypnosis. 🌟
So my plea to you today is;
MAKE ME MOMENTS
you need them & your family need you to have them 😊
Especially those of us whom care for children, parents, relatives, clients, friends, because you will care for them better when you #care #for #yourself.
And let’s face it we can’t always rely on other people to do it for us can we?
Over the last few years I have regrettably neglected myself so much. I honestly think if I had vowed to myself to have a weekly shoulder and back massage or an hour here and there having a swim at the pool.. I may have avoided but surely managed much better emotional struggles I have experienced over the last few years #ocd #depression #anxiety .
Thank you for reading, if you enjoyed this out please LIKE 👍 If you or you think someone may find this post helpful SHARE 👌 & Please comment with your views, questions and TIPS on how you make & spend your ME MOMENTS.🙏
Peace & Love 💜 Hypno Mama x
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